Slice of cake

It just came to me that we are grown-ups already.

For starters

I am married although I have not started living a restricted life with my husband, I feel the pressure of 'the holy union between 2 separate entities'. There are many decisions that you have to make as 2 persons. You speak for 2, and you have additional pressure as compared to being single. It is also very often we get misunderstood for 'hen-pecked' and 'over zealously controlling' senarios.

Wise man said 'Both sides are wishing the best for the couple, but their stubborness & inflexibilty caused grave misery to the couple they blessed'

Who is going to adapt to who, who is giving in to who...given a worse case senario back at home, I start to wonder why divorce rates are on the rise. Comprimising and leniency doesnt seemed to find its way to homes of many people here, including my own. Like Japanese food, its an acquired taste that not many fancies. Time & era has changed where the younger generation do not succumb to the teachings of the older generation. We have been very adaptable to compete on par with external career rivals, but have we (incl. parents) brought the same hostility back home?

May we remind ourselves, when we are parents of our children, that marriage is between the young couple & its a NEW family they are forming. If we impose our good + bad values of OUR household on them, they might resent our good intentions.

Then comes work.
It is through the working environment (constant contact with general public) that I realised the most vicious weapon isn't bio-related, nor is WORLD WAR I, II or III the most feared situation. It is the mouth of nothing-better-to-do people that makes HUMANS' WORSE NIGHTMARE. Rumours, just 1 rumour, will cause your downfall in the organization & the neighbourhood.

Same logic happens back at home...if you start saying something or suggestion your ideas onto another household. You will not only upset the system of the household, it also implicates the couple that runs the household. We are in no position to judge if they are running it right or not, birth of male/female child or even how they dress themselves. Crudely, 他家的事，干你什么事?

Life's getting very tough from now on...I only hope I have my own system of running my family & not being imposed with ideas of how another family runs. If my elders have their freedom, from their parents, of running their own show, I should be given the exact rights to it toO!